Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Don't Go Breakin My Heart

This kid is breaking my heart. Ripping it out of my chest. Sigh.
Eli, the past few weeks, has decided that he does not want to go to preschool. The closer we get to the school, he starts to say, "I don't feel so good" and tears well up in his big eyes. The first day he did this, I thought maybe he really was sick, so I took him home and made him rest. But...it has continued. I have asked him a million questions trying to get to the bottom of it. Nothing definite. His teacher says he's fine after a little while...after I'm gone of course. It's just weird that it's starting now...towards the end of the year. And it's really just "not like him." He's usually mellow and easy going about school! It has made me ponder homeschooling for the rest of the year. I KNOW! ME!?!? *laughing hysterically* I would be doing it for all the wrong reasons. This is something we have to work through together...it's part of life.
Eli, you're killing me here...help me figure this out little man.


  1. Cute picture! Isn't it so hard to see our kids hurting or struggling for any reason...especially when we can't figure it out. Sometimes us mom's just want to figure it out, fix it up, and protect our kids from all the hard stuff. It is so hard to know the right thing to do. I'll pray that God will give you wisdom.

  2. Ohhh, tough one. He is adorable and you are beautiful girl!

  3. He's so close to being done. I think it would be good for him to finish. It may be a good opportunity to talk to him in a very simple way about perseverance. I went through the same thing with G. and piano lessons. I almost let her quit. In fact, I got so tired of fighting with her and listening to her cry/whine that I told her she could quit. Then I realized God was laying the foundation for her to learn a valuable life lesson. The whole issue of... sometimes things are tough and we always don't get it right the first time, but that doesn't mean we quit. I truly felt she needed to know the importance of following through with something. I agree 100% with jamie and the figure it out/fix it up issue. I'm so that way, but all kids go through phases and I truly feel he's going through a phase and it will pass. Love you tons!
    p.s. beth stopped by today with a copy of her digital page of us 3. It is so cute! I'm sure she has one for you. it was tons of fun even though i'm a pain in your rear! :)

  4. That age is so impressionable. Maybe he just wants an early summer vacation...smart kid!

  5. It is so hard to figure out what is going on sometimes!!! I hate that too! I bet you will figure it out soon!

  6. Spring fever? Poor guy- and poor you. Actually one of the reasons we homeschool is I am not ready for my babies to leave!

  7. that is the sweetest picture ever. i completely feel for you, tough place, cause really he is still so little. praying that you might hear his heart and know what the Lord is telling you.

  8. *UPDATE*
    I had a good talk with Eli before bed and I think I figured out at least some of what's going on.
    1)Stressing himself out over a letter book he needs to complete that is "REALLY" hard! :)
    2)A competetive spirit: that is losing against a 2nd year preschooler who's bigger and more experienced :)

    Thank you for your wisdom, encouragement, and prayers...I so needed them today. And I am praising God for the little glimpse He gave me into my charming son...and for the hope I have that HE is with Eli, even when I am not.

  9. I got here late! I'm glad you're working it out!

  10. He's adorable! And good for you to keep inquiring with him.

  11. Sounds like you're on the right path. If it's any encouragement, you should take pride in the fact that you're getting to know Eli better as you sort out this situation. And that's one of the greatest gifts we Moms can give your child, in my estimation. As we discover who God made them to be, we can reflect it back to them. "Train up a child in the way HE should go...."

  12. I'm so gald to hear that he is opening up to you! K is going through a similar thing. Every bit of 'weak mommy will' within me just wants to hold him tight and keep him home. I know that wouldn't fix any thing.
    K is usually as happy as ever when he gets home from shcool, so I think his issue is partially just not being a morning person. Where would he get THAT?! :)
    I'll be praying that Eli starts to go to school excitedly and willingly. :)

  13. I love what you wrote in the "update" comment.

    He is with Eli when you're not. Pray, pray some more... and He'll guide you down the right path.

    Love the picture of you two... what a treasure!

  14. Sweet picture!
    I read this yesterday and came over to comment today. Glad to see your update ~

  15. For some reason my link didn't show up ~sorry

  16. Hmmmm... Don't know how I missed this one yesterday, but I'm kinda glad I got here after the update. My first thought was that there must be some kind of stressor or trigger to have such anxiety so late in the year. I'm glad he was able to articulate it to you. I will definitely be praying for you and for him. Preschool problems are as big to him as adult problems are to us, and he doesn't yet have the history with God to know that God can be trusted with this stuff.

    Do you think that's why God gives children such faith? We can choose to trust 'cause we have seen God work--in Scripture, in history, and in our own lives. But children are too young to know these kinds of things or have this experience...so perhaps that's why God gives them an extra measure of faith....? Hmmm... Just pondering.

  17. My big girl went through this when I was pregnant with number 2! They literally had to pry her off of me!!!

    You will get through it even if you never figure out why it started!! It gets better!


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